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The belief that it's offensive to ask a man if he's gay is homophobic thinking. It reflects the idea that there's something insulting about being gay - something bad. One thing we're up against is that we live in a culture where it's just assumed that people are straight. Straight people don't ask each other if they're heterosexual before asking each other out. They just get up the courage and ask. If a someone says, "no," it's assumed they're simply not interested. The person asked on the date usually feels complimented rather than offended.
Well, the same needs to be true for us gays. While we need to use our best judgment to stay safe from physical harm, we also need to feel uninhibited to express our natural attractions. If another man gets offended that's his problem. Don't take his baggage - about being a man's man (another thing we're up against) - on.
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