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Dear Straight Ally,
I still hang out with my ex. We have talked and it's clear that we are just friends. But he still kind of shows affection for me. I never really know whether its cuz he's being a friend or if he's still in love with me. What do you think he's thinking?
Signed, Gray Area
Dear Grey Area,
My intent is not to be flip or unfeeling, but since neither of us are mind readers or psychics, you have to ask him how he feels. Neither of us have any idea what he's thinking. All I can do is help you with your thinking. This is important for me to say out load because so many couples expect to read each other's minds.
Direct communication with the source is scary as hell, but its always the best route to take. His answer will give you the clarity you need. Get it straight from the horses mouth.
From the words, "kind of," in your question, I can't help but wonder if you are seeing a mirage. Sometimes we project our feelings onto others. It might help to reverse the question - are you still in love with him? Are you seeing something you want to be there that isn't? Just a thought. :
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