Ask Angelo - Angelo Pezzote
plus Top 10 New Year's Resolutions
I have benefitted a lot from reading your column over the last year. What do you hope to do for gays?
Thank you. I want gays to feel good about themelves and to lead fulfilling lives.
Here's my Mission Statement:
All my work is in the context of being gay affirmative. This means I approach gayness as something that's positive, natural and healthy. Most of our suffering comes from experiencing other people's negative reactions to us being gay, and not from our being gay by nature. I think all GLBT persons experience psychological / social trauma because of the discriminatory gay stigma. We are unfairly challenged by the toxic homophobic atmosphere that's all around us, and are negatively effected by the dysfunctional responses of others.
It is my goal to help change this damaging experience for us gay persons by: improving that poisonous atmosphere, alleviating the symptoms and discomfort of gay men who are suffering from these sensitive issues, enhancing our self acceptance, affirming self love, encouraging personal growth and improving our relationships.
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All The Best, Angelo.
I'm looking to turn over a new leaf next year. What do you suggest?
Signed, Trying In Trenton
Dear Trying In Trenton,
Here's my top 10 list of New Year's Resolutions. I hope it helps you. Good luck.
1. Give Up A Bad Habit: smoking, drinking, drugging, over-eating, over-sexing, etc.
2. Begin A Good Habit: dieting, exercising, meditating, yoga, prayer, etc.
3. End A Bad Relationship: get out of unhealthy relationships.
4. Renew A Broken Relationship: forgiveness, solutions, moving forward together.
5. Start New Healthy Relationships: meet more friends, date, join a new community that interests you.
6. Be Better With Money: spend less, budget, shop less.
7. Do What You've Been Putting Off: finish that project, take that class, join that group, take that trip, purchase it, etc.
8. Make That Life Change: make the commitment, get a pet, adopt, get a civil union, apply for that job, buy a home, car, etc.
9. Start To Put Yourself First: it is not selfish but essential that you put you into the equation for a change.
10. Stick To It: behavioral change can be hard.
Quote: "It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power." - Alan Cohen
All The Best, Angelo
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